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Sometimes life throws you fast balls that you can’t catch, and sometimes it throws several fast balls at the same time.

First, we had a roof leak during one weekend, when it was just pouring rain of course. No one worked on the weekend, and no one wanted to climb up on our roof because its pitch is too steep and slippery in the rain. We got that fixed after shelling out several hundred dollars.

Then, I got rear ended in a car accident. At first, I didn’t think the damage was that significant, but the guy hit my car hard enough to have twisted the frame, so it was totalled. We are now having to better coordinate our schedules to share the available vehicles amongst all the family members.

Third, my husband lost his job. It is not a good thing when one is near retirement age, very specialized in his field, and not prepared to start from the bottom. All this happened because the parent company in China decided to close down the North America operations, but didn’t want to pay severances to the staff so they decided to declare bankruptcy instead. It is a long story, but I see this as an unethical practice. I cannot understand how a company can treat its own people like this.

On top of all of this, my dad went into the hospital due to a seizure, cause still unknown. He’s been there for 1.5 weeks now, but then again he is 90.

It almost felt like a “test my mettle” month. I am trying hard to focus on the AWESOME aspects of things …

— no one got hurt in the car accident

— the insurance company paid us a reasonable amount for the car

— the roof is fixed, the wall will eventually be replaced and I get to put on a fresh layer of paint in the bathroom

— I get to have lunch with hubby almost everyday

— Maybe my husband can use this new opportunity to establish himself as a consultant

— My dad will be discharged later this week

— It’s a sunny and lovely day outside

I know that this too shall pass, and I’m appreciating whatever AWESOMENESS I can find.


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We tend to complain and bitch about our health care system and feel helpless not being to do anything about it. Well, I am going to do something, but this something has to do with praising our health care system … here is the story.

My father-in-law, a very healthy 87 year old with no previous symptoms, suddenly suffered a heart attack last Friday. He collapsed in the front yard of a house, next door to the friend that he was going to visit to borrow a wheel barrow. He was unconscious and his heart stopped for a while. For whatever reason, his friend looked out the window and saw him lying on the grass. 911 was called, ambulance came (20 min. later as it had to come from the next town), he was transported to the hospital in Vernon. He had a fantastic doctor from the Emergency Dept., who kept us informed on a daily basis with updates.

All the stars were aligned for him as this could have turned out much worse. I focus on all the positive things that went right:

  • He collapsed where his friend saw him.
  • His friend looked out the window for no particular reason.
  • His heart started pumping again on its own.
  • He only scraped his forehead, his face and his knee. He didn’t break anything or suffered other major injuries from his collapse.
  • He received great care from an¬†exceptional doctor, who has been very communicative, personable and offered much insights for the family. He phoned us every morning so far to keep us up to date, when he didn’t see us face-to-face.
  • My husband’s siblings really pulled together and drove to be with my parents-in-law, everyone did his / her best to help and stay in the loop, juggling with their own jobs, families and distance. All the spouses are supportive during this difficult time.
  • Thank goodness for emails to reach a large group of people quickly with news.
  • It looks like my father-in-law will be able to have the surgery to repair the blocked valve within days. (fingers crossed)

Even though none of us wants this to happen, the incident brought out the bright side of things … and the AWESOME people in our lives.

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They say … Aging is inevitable. Aging is natural. I say … Aging is annoying. While I don’t want to do cosmetic surgery, looking at my mirror reflections somedays make me want one. When did the bags under my eyes become so prominent? When did my joints and knees start to stiffen and ache when I go downstairs? I get tired after doing things that didn’t use to tire me.

I suppose I have to accept the natural process, but I don’t have to like it. Many people say I can pass for a younger person, but I know how old I am. Worse, I know how old I feel some days. Like today, I felt tired after a long day spent in the hospital with my friend, getting a couple of tests done.

However, seeing how my friend is full of spirits and how positively she is handling her unexpected illness, I am motivated to count my blessings once more, to accept me as I am, currently still healthy without anything, that I know of, that could be harming me. I admire my friend’s attitude, she said she will handle this like it is a project and her goal is to get better, to fight the cancer and to appreciate the gifts of friends and families. I draw from her strength, her faith and her calm. I’ve been trying to normalize her days this week while I am with her. I can certainly understand if she feels scared inside, I know I would be.

Thank God she has a close knit family. One of her daughters came back to Ontario and switched university temporarily to be closer. The other calls daily to check on her, as do her parents. I heard many other phone calls coming through from other well wishers. Another friend of hers will be driving into town to accompany her next week to her upcoming appointments.

So what’s a few wrinkles or aches and pains? They are nothing compared to a time of uncertainty that my friend is experiencing. What are bags under my eyes? They are nothing compared to someone who can’t sleep worrying about her prognosis.

My friend, F, thanked me for being here with her. I told her that she is only getting back what she gives, I am only paying it forward. F is an AWESOME person with an amazing outlook. Keep fighting, my friend, and I will fight with you. I am holding the vision of you being free of cancer soon.

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