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Sometimes life throws you fast balls that you can’t catch, and sometimes it throws several fast balls at the same time.

First, we had a roof leak during one weekend, when it was just pouring rain of course. No one worked on the weekend, and no one wanted to climb up on our roof because its pitch is too steep and slippery in the rain. We got that fixed after shelling out several hundred dollars.

Then, I got rear ended in a car accident. At first, I didn’t think the damage was that significant, but the guy hit my car hard enough to have twisted the frame, so it was totalled. We are now having to better coordinate our schedules to share the available vehicles amongst all the family members.

Third, my husband lost his job. It is not a good thing when one is near retirement age, very specialized in his field, and not prepared to start from the bottom. All this happened because the parent company in China decided to close down the North America operations, but didn’t want to pay severances to the staff so they decided to declare bankruptcy instead. It is a long story, but I see this as an unethical practice. I cannot understand how a company can treat its own people like this.

On top of all of this, my dad went into the hospital due to a seizure, cause still unknown. He’s been there for 1.5 weeks now, but then again he is 90.

It almost felt like a “test my mettle” month. I am trying hard to focus on the AWESOME aspects of things …

— no one got hurt in the car accident

— the insurance company paid us a reasonable amount for the car

— the roof is fixed, the wall will eventually be replaced and I get to put on a fresh layer of paint in the bathroom

— I get to have lunch with hubby almost everyday

— Maybe my husband can use this new opportunity to establish himself as a consultant

— My dad will be discharged later this week

— It’s a sunny and lovely day outside

I know that this too shall pass, and I’m appreciating whatever AWESOMENESS I can find.


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Our middle child moved out in the summer, we hardly heard from her unless we called her. She is enjoying her independence and freedom. On the other hand, she is facing the reality of having no extra money since everything she earns goes to rent, utility, internet, transportation and (barely enough) food. In her words, “her social life sucks”. In order to have more money to socialize, she is now working a second job for the same restaurant chain.

Apparently the restaurant business is amazingly smart. They wouldn’t give her a second job in the same restaurant where she is already working, but at another branch in another city (it takes her more time and money to get there), so they don’t have to pay her overtime or give her enough hours at the same restaurant to warrant her a full time employee and give her benefits. Despite the appalling treatment, our daughter accepts it citing that she is still an apprentice with them. While I applaud her “suck it up” attitude, I can’t help but feel for her being taken advantage of.

With his younger sister now independent, our eldest has been itching to move out again – can’t be out done by a younger sibling! So it now looks like he too will be moving out next month. But this time, he is moving out with his girlfriend … there will be new learning and adjustments, I’m sure. I hope they will both treat this as a commitment, not a trial co-habitation experiment.

Our youngest child is still home, sort of. She is treating home more like a hotel and comes and goes as she pleases most of the time. When she didn’t come home one night (she stayed with her sister), she scared us out of our wits when we discovered her empty room in the morning. We found this disrespectful behaviour unacceptable. After some frantic calls and texts and profusion of apologies, she swore she would never do it again, things calmed.

While I accept that this day will come (the empty nesting stage) … it is coming faster than I’m prepared for it. It is AWESOME that they are being independent and more responsible, it IS what we hope for our children. Two down, one to go.

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“Want fries with that?”

I don’t know what finally motivated our youngest child to get a job, but she finally got one. It was a long time coming. May be it was the debt she is accumulating from borrowing money from her family, may be it finally dawned on her that she has no spending money to speak of albeit she is the most frugal of all three children, may be it’s only because all her friends are applying at this place.

Despite my wish for her to work as a lifeguard after all that training, I am glad that she will have the experience of working, earning her own money and working with others outside the home. May be then she will realize that she has it good at home!

“Want fries with that?” AWESOME!

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