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All my life, people tell me I look like my mom. More than once or twice, I was told I looked exactly like her. Now as an adult, I’d have to admit I do look like her. My face, my body shape, some of my expressions, and a few other mannerism do look like her.

When I was younger, I didn’t like it when people commented how much I looked like my mother. I wonder how many youths like to be told they look like their parent. In my youth, I used to think … I wanted to look cool and fashionable, not like my mother; I wanted to have my own identity, not like my mother; I wanted to know more about the world, not like my mother; I wanted to be learned, scholarly and educated, not like my mother; I wanted to have a tall and slim figure, not like my mother; I wanted to be softer and well spoken, not like my mother; I wanted to travel the world, not like my mother …. You get the picture.

The reality is that I do look like my mother. I have her stocky and short stature, her unshapely and peasant legs and feet, her sense of thriftiness and much more. I stopped resenting our look alikes many years ago (I’m not sure when this happened, but I’m guessing around the time when we started our own family) and I started appreciating some of her common sense and implicit teaching, despite her lack of formal education.

Like my mom, I value the importance of my family, friends and connections; I appreciate loyalty and commitment; I have and am not afraid of sharing my voice and opinion; I love trying new things and adventures; I am not a wasteful person; I enjoy socializing with people; I appreciate what I have no matter how little; I am versatile and can roll with the punches; I am a survivor in tough and difficult times; I have so many more common characteristics as my mom.

On this Mother’s Day, I remember my mother and all her AWESOMENESS that I hope I have, that I hope our children will one day come to appreciate and may be even inherit. Thanks mom, you gave me more than your looks, and I don’t mind looking like you at all; I also hope that, wherever you are in heaven, you know your children appreciate you.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the AWESOME moms!


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I’m on a business trip and staying at a B&B. The owner operator of this gorgeous B&B by the ocean is a mother of a 16 year old daughter, L. Like many parents with teenagers, she is going through the insufferable teenage years. From an outsider’s perspective (mine), her daughter does not seem out of control – she is not lippy, not overly demanding and quite smart and athletic. I am certain I am only seeing a minute side of her, but I understand the mom’s exasperation, undeserved indignity and frustration when minor inconsequential incidents became out of proportion disasters.

The teenage daughter’s 16th birthday is tomorrow. A wonderful party and meal are being planned, friends will gather for a scavenger hunt, a steak dinner with all the trimmings and side dishes, and I’m sure many presents. Both mom and dad are doing so much to make it a wonderful day for her.

In this day and age, the kids seem to have everything they could possibly want and parents are bending over backwards to make their kids’ lives easier and more enjoyable than what they themselves had experienced. Yet, there seems an unspoken expectation of “gimmes”.

Sunday is Mother’s Day, All mothers should have an AWESOME day. I hope L will remember to honour her mom and all the wonderful things she has done to support her. I wonder if my children will remember that I will be home on Sunday to spend Mother’s Day with them?

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